By: Siyabonga Londani Zulu
It’s that season of the year again when many will splash on exuberant gifts and surprises to express their love for one another. For me personally, I fail in an epic way at planning such things. Don’t get me wrong it is not because I am not a man of grand romantic gestures, I prefer to be spontaneous and I am usually very rebellious to any sort of pressured conformity.
Whether or not you’re a man or woman of grand romantic gestures, I think that love is an expression and an extension of our character and personalities. For this very reason we experience and share love differently. We struggle so much with deciphering how love should be and how we should experience it because we have not given a thought to the fact that we ourselves are very unique beings. Our love languages can be as different and diverse as we ourselves are. We try to mold each other and it often fails and we’re left frustrated and misunderstood.
“I advise you to keep in your hearts that the best gift you can give to people that you love is your time and your presence.”
This ‘Love Season’ spare a thought for ‘why’ and not just ‘how much’, when you are wondering what to do for your loved one or that potential someone. After all, the sentiments remain when the trinkets have long faded.
Anyone who knows me knows that I am very big on reciprocation. For me, this is a big clue to how much someone values you in their life. It’s all about effort and less about matched exchanges of gifts. I don’t want to get caught up with thinking that love is about what someone can buy me or what I can buy someone. My love will never be for sale and neither should yours ever be.
My hope is that you settle for more than just a gift this year. I hope that you will give and receive love. It’s beautiful. I hope that a seed of love will be planted, for new relationships to blossom and for those in a steady but enduring race on their quest for love to realise that beauty is already in them.
I advise you to keep in your hearts that the best gift you can give to people that you love is your time and your presence. To be there in the moment and deeply connected to them, for all the right reasons.